Tuesday, March 12, 2013

A Word about Heteronormative Society

I recently went to a store where there was an advertisement for 'daddy-daughter' date nights. I was excited, that means I'd only have to pay for my meal, and get two for free. Most excellent! I am a frugal person - so this seemed right up my alley.

Except when I stopped to think about what a 'daddy-daughter' date night meant. It is reminicent of heteronormative society, only going out with the opposite sex parent. Why not have a 'mommy-daughter' night? Why assume that the child has both parents to choose from?

I'm upset because I want my daughter to grow up without judgements. I don't want to have to always have a borderline electra complex for anything that my daughter wants to do with her father. I don't want her to start with 'daddy-daughter' dates that evolve into chastity balls where my daughter is nothing but a commodity for men. First for her father, then for whoever she is supposed to give herself to.

Yeah, I know I sound crazy, but it seems like a slipperly slope to me. I just want to raise a nonjudgemental liberal child.

Friday, March 8, 2013

Corporate Scams

I dislike large corporations,  mostly when they take advantage of their customers. Companies that use their name to bully and confuse customers into spending more money then they have.

I recently got an email for an offer - 4 product for a dollar with membership. It sounded too good to be true, things that I wanted, could use for gifts and all sorts of stuff. It was too good to be true.

Spending a dollar? That's something I can handle - but I took a look at the 'membership details.'

"As a member, all you need to do is buy 5 movies at regular Club prices in the next 24 months (starting at $19.95 per DVD and $29.95 per Blu-ray for a member who joins under a DVD enrollment offer or starting at $29.95 per DVD and $29.95 per Blu-ray for a member who joins under a Blu-ray enrollment offer), plus shipping and processing of $3.95 for the first title in each order, and $1.49 for each additional title in that same order. You may cancel your membership at any time after purchasing the 5 movies."

Let's quick add that up - 5 movies, each for about $20, and each time you buy you spend $4 in shipping. For the '1 dollar' I was intending on spending, I would end up spending $120. And guess what, you can't just cancel your membership, and you can't use a check. They have your credit card information, and they will charge you. A little rediculous, advertise what you want from your customer!

When a company that is exceptionally wealthy does things like this - it makes me sick.

The problem is, I still love the products. Jerks.

Thursday, March 7, 2013

What Pro-Choice Means for Me

Disclaimer: This is only my feelings on my personal experience with having one pregnancy and resulting in one child. I do not mean it as a blanket statement for all people that are pro-choice.

Pro-choice means for me that no one has the right to tell a woman what to do with her body. No governing body, no religion, no one, ever. A doctor can give an opinion, viable options, statistics and such, but no one can tell a woman what to do with her body - and specifically her uterus.

Zelda was my choice to have, I could have made different decisions with my sex life but I didn't. I made my choices with Sean and had an 'accident.' We may not have known each other for very long, but sometimes you trust someone.

I knew Sean was going to be the best dad when he said 'I love you' to our unborn child before saying it to me.

Pro-choice doesn't mean I wanted to end my pregnancy, for me it meant I had to look at all the possibilities. Was I ready to have a baby? Yes. Was I willing to have the baby? Yes. Was being a parent an option for me? Yes. Did I want to be have a baby? Not exactly, but she's grown on me (and in me). I had no reason to abort Z, medically I was healthy enough, mentally I was alright, and I had a job.

I know in my heart 9 times out of ten I would not abort a baby I was pregnant with. I am a strong enough woman now to understand the consequences of my choices and know that if I am to bring a child into the world I am old enough to take care of it. Does that mean I am irresponsible now? No. I have a freaking IUD. I'm not stupid, another baby would drive me crazy at this point.

Just because I wouldn't abort a fetus doesn't mean that I should impose that choice on any other woman. Some women might not be ready for parenthood, might have been raped, might have been molested - it's not my story, I've written mine out.

Pro-choice is not pro-murder. I'm not saying every unexpected pregnancy should end with abortion. I made my choice. Every other woman should get that same choice.

This kind of stems from this article.

I don't know, but Zelda came out with plenty personality, and I would deem her a person from when she was placed bloody and screaming on my chest.

Recently I missed my period. The only thing I could think was "I can't afford this baby, why did my birth control fail?" It ended up being a week late, and I'm not pregnant. I had to write out a plan for my options - including abortion. So for me, abortion is a choice I am willing to make.

Saturday, March 2, 2013

Living on the Edge!

As some of you may know, I live a little on the edge. I like a variety of experiences, and have an affinity for getting things stuck into my skin. But little did I know that there was a great supplier for any sort of medical supplies. I tried amazon, but it was just too expensive and the shipping was a little strange. My close friend turned me to site called ShopMetVet.

It is a pretty good place to get a variety of things to stick into your body, and if you are a medical professional the prices are pretty competitive. I enjoyed the fact that when something from my order didn't come in, immediately I got a call and told the new price, and the new items were shipped to me. I was super excited that I got what I wanted cheaper than I expected too.

I ordered 25g needles and sutures this time around. :) I am a happy person.